Lauren Winner (author of Real Sex, Girl Meets God, and Mudhouse Sabbath) spoke at Fuller’s chapel service today. Her talk was entitled “The Lies The Church Tells About Sex.” It was a great talk, and I’m disappointed I’m going to miss her other talk/discussion on campus tonight.
She touched on some important points about the church and sexuality, focusing on three “lies” told by the church about sex: First, that anytime you have premarital sex you will feel guilty the next morning. Second, the way the church portrays gender and sexuality is demeaning and damaging to both male and female. Third, sexual sin is an unforgivable sin that will leave permanent “scars and ghosts” on your life.
I thought all three points were presented clearly and effectively, and I’m going to try and read her book “Real Sex” sometime for some more depth on these, and other, issues.
I just have one point of contention – the title of the talk. There have been all kinds of advertisements around campus promoting chapel this week in big and bold print – “Lies the Church tells about sex.”
Before the talk I expressed frustration to a few people about the title, but after hearing how good and positive the bulk of the talk was I was even more frustrated.
It just seems like it’s so easy to profit from beating up on the Church.
A big part of the reason that I wanted to come to Fuller and look into vocational ministry is because I fell in love with the vision of the Church, both local and global (thanks to everyone at Blackhawk Church, along with the thoughts of Bill Hybels, Erwin McManus, John Piper, Brian McLaren etc).
The Church is to embody Christ to a world that is desperately searching for meaning, life, and purpose. The Church is to love deeply and care for orphans and widows, and point to the spiritual reality of the Kingdom of God.
And, yes, the Church has failed many times in those pursuits – but (it is)/(we are) a work in progress.
Especially here and now, in America, where the church has been de-institutionalized and de-centralized from popular culture and is fighting for relevance in a culture that has in many ways moved past organized Christianity…shouldn’t Christ followers be supporting the Church, and fighting for it, rather than making insinuations about how it has maliciously led a generation of young people by spreading lies?
It’s just frustrating to see such a great message (correcting what the Church has taught for too long about sex) advertised and promoted with such a negative bent.
Any thoughts? Am I putting too much weight on the title? Am I off base?